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Be Ready for Your Opportunity…Sharing my Disappointment

Hello TMFA family,

Disappointed WomanI wanted to share with you something that happened to me early last week. Since the summer of last year I’ve been very vocal with my family and colleagues about wanting to become a professor; teaching general business, marketing and human resources courses. Well last week my colleague said to me “why haven’t you applied for those types of positions yet?” And I explained that I was waiting for the ideal time. To be honest there is and was no “ideal” time I just had not put my desire into tangible form. She wasn’t buying my answer and quickly gave me the names of some key people that could take my dream and make it my reality. I went immediately to my desk and called all three people on the list. One never called back, the second one wasn’t helpful or encouraging at all but the third, the third individual was different.

The third individuals took the time to speak with me about what I needed to do and how I needed to do it. She even went as far as requesting I email my transcripts to her before we got off the phone. I was amazed and completely taken back by the information she had so freely given and the fact that she would credential (meaning, look over your transcripts and professional experience to determine what courses I would be qualified to teach at that institution) me on the spot. She called me back about 30 minutes later and told me that my entrepreneurial experience in starting and running my own business is exactly what they were looking for the 2013 summer sessions. She also told me that talks were going on right now to select candidates to hire and I should take her recommendation, my resume, transcripts and information regarding my business immediately to the hiring manager.

Allow me to set the stage for you so you can really feel the dynamics of this situation as it occurred. The hiring manager travels a lot and would only be in the office the very next day. His calendar was already filled so getting some face time would be difficult. This woman that had been so helpful would be able to assist me in that regard. Before we got off the phone she informed me of one more thing, she was retiring the very next day so I should try to take full advantage of her last day of employment.

My window of opportunity was there, as narrow as it might have been, it was there. I went home and tried desperately to compose an eloquent cover letter and restructure my resume to highlight the key elements that would set me apart from the rest. I also needed a current business portfolio to demonstrate how my company went from conception to today. None of these things I had ready to go. I was deflated.

The Disappointment:
I didn’t get the cover letter, resume and portfolio done. The next day came without me getting in front of the hiring manager. The sweet lady that was ready, willing and able to assist me, had bid me farewell and good luck on her last day. I was left in almost the same position I had started.

I had resolved to say that “Well maybe it wasn’t the right time. When God sees fit to lead….” No, I messed up. I prayed for something while doing nothing and expected results. God doesn’t work like that.

#takemyfoolishadvice you can’t pray for an opportunity and not be prepared for it. We may never know when our opportunity will arise and how long it will be there so we have to be prepared. I hope you are prepared for your next opportunity.

Beloved,

AWalk

Prayer | Sandy Hook Elementary

Every era brings forth new enlightenment, new technology, new discoveries, new terrors, a new strand of hatred, a new degree of violence. “The heart of man is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: Who can know it?” I came home today with full intentions of giving my 8 year old son a stern talking to for forgetting his homework at home again this week. Instead I just  hugged him, pinched him and kissed him all night. I understand that Sandy Hook Elementary school could of been, or possibly be, my son’s school. I thank God that tragedy passed over my door step and family today. At the same time I am deeply saddened that tonight, at this very moment 20 parents will not be able to pinch their child, hug their child and kiss their child all night.

The Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting is a horrific tragedy no child, parent, school administrator or community should have to experience. Today we witnessed the result of sin being introduced into God’s perfect creation. Today we as a country cried out in unison to the one source that could console us and give us strength, God. Please continue to pray for the victims, their families and the healing of this nation.

#takemyfoolishadvice I lift up my eyes to the mountains where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth. (Psalms 121:1-2)

prayer-child

Beloved,

AWalk

Eve didn’t approach Adam 1st. So why would I ask you for your number?

Adam asked God to give him a companion and a woman was God’s response. Notice that the man had to make the request. It was the man that made the first move. So explain to me why men expect for woman to approach them when they’re interested. Explain to me how two people can have intense eye contact with each other across the room but the man never makes a move. Before you say that he probably wasn’t that in to her, let’s just pretend for a moment that he was. And while you’re at it, explain to me why the 2012 man likes it when a woman approaches him for his number.

Eve wasn’t the aggressor then and I’m sure not going to be it now. I think it paints a woman as desperate and without tact. I know I’m old fashion but I refuse to believe that the good ole days of a man approaching a woman, are over.

Am I out of touch with what’s going on in 2012? Let me know below.

Warm regards,

AWalk

Single and working for Christ

Most churches have a singles ministry but I will be honest, I have never joined. Over the years my interest has varied but never enough to take the plunge and venture inside a meeting. While what I am about to say next is far from the truth a part of me feels that Single Ministries have a stench of “desperation” attached to them. I know there main objective is not to play match maker but I don’t necessary feel comfortable with the labels and thoughts associates with it. Again, I will admit I’m an outsider looking in.

All these dating sites directed toward Christian singles only serves as added pressure to find your “soul mate”. The devil will sometimes use my feelings of loneliness and sadness, to make these mediums look more and more appealing. I’m not surprised when he dangles what appears to be something good in front of me just to separate me from the love of Christ.

While the lows and lengths of these lonely spells are few and far between they still occur. I find solace in reading, writing, mediating, find new adventures (small ones) to explore and/or adding projects to things I’m working on. The important part about doing these things is it allows feel good about myself and good about the people I’m serving. I feel more fulfilled when I am making good quality use of my time and God given talents. Those close to me will say that I work 24.5 hours a day just to stay busy enough. That is partially true and that is okay because I’ve never known someone to get in trouble by being busy at work and focused on Christ.

I do think that during my single life I’m able to work for Christ in a way married couples can’t. And being single is definitely a time to build, tear down and build again a relationship with Christ that will survive life; literally and figuratively. I enjoy the work that I do in my Lords name; it brings me true joy, happiness and peace. I do it because I love it and I want Christ to be proud of the work I’ve been able to do, for His kingdom, with the gifts he’s given me.  If I am to be married I want my husband to find me working in the church, for my family and community. I’m not sure yet why it’s so important to me but I’m content with knowing that it is for now. We can talk about this some more if you like. Feel free to also ask me questions on how to combat the lonely.

#takemyfoolishadvice being a Christian single is not a death sentence. The best is always what God has in store for you.

Beloved,

AWalk

Jesus Prays for YOU, personally!

Hey Guys,

I know this is really random but I wanted to share with you something that kind of blew my mind tonight. I attended a young adult meet-up and we discussed the Holy Bible, the book of John chapters 17 and 18. These two chapters touched my soul and moved me to tears.

In my mind I know that Jesus loves and cares for us, obviously, He died for us. I know this. And I also know that Jesus prays for us. But tonight knowing that and reading Jesus’ pray in John chapter 18 made my heart know, in a different way, just how much He loves us.  Jesus is in Heaven praying for ME, little ole me to make it; for me to truly be happy and joyful; for Me to be successful; for me to push through life’s obstacles and defeat the Devil; for me now to be lost to this world. It blows my mind. Before sunrise at the same time every morning you can find me in prayer. It blows my mind to think that Jesus may have a set time daily, weekly, hourly just for ME.

My heart and mind really connected in a different way tonight and I hope you guess can appreciate the realization I felt. Again, I know this is random but random is good some times. I recommend reading the chapters, they’re fairly short and a great read. Once you do read it come back and tell me what you thought of Jesus’ prayer. God Bless and stay strong Jesus is cheering you on to the finish line.

Beloved,

AWalk

Changes| What to Do Professionally? Pt.1

So ever since I could remember I always asked myself, “What are you going to do with your life?” Every year I would compose a goal sheet a map to success. My first one, that I actually still have, goes back to 1993. I was starting a new school and I just felt like… Okay this is the big leagues you have to have a solid plan to your ultimate goal. Poor thing, my ultimate plan kept changing. Most adults were often impressed with my forethought at such an early age. What they failed to understand was I wasn’t asking myself these questions and desperately seeking the answers out of maturity. It was more out of fear and the desire to save myself from failure and disappointment.

I was and slightly still am the type of person that ALWAYS wanted to know what was going to happen every step of the way. What is going to happen if I earn a degree in business as opposed to applied health? What will happen if I move to New York as opposed to Georgia, will there be better employment opportunities? What will happen if I decide to get married, will it last more than 5 years? Would I be happier single? What am I going to be like when I’m 60 years old, will I be happy with the chooses I’ve made? ALL THESE QUESTIONS AND NO DEFINITIVE ANSWERS. You know why there’s no definite answers, because I am not God and faith is built knowing that He has all of this figured out for us. Amen.

So fast forward 15-20 years…

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I Want to See You Fail

We seem to be a growing society that relishes in the failures of someone else. It is almost as if we are obsessed and instantly satisfied to see someone completely defeated. And I am not referring to a competitive nature. I am talking about finding comfort, solace in the failure of others solely to make one self feel better, more significant, confident and happy.  There is something gravely wrong and destructive with this type of mentality.

Amongst my family and closest friends, I always refer to our relationships as “Team Amy”. If you are not on “Team Amy” then you are not within my circle of trust (“Meet The Fockers” reference. I love that movie. LOL). Then you are not within my circle of love. You are not in my circle of joy, happiness, and sweet pleasure. I have felt the change in my personality, my physical and mental health and my spirit when I have someone with a negative, prideful and spiteful spirit around me. I’ve had to dissolve some friendships and even remove myself from certain family members because they were not on my team. Trust me when I say I am a happy and healthier Amy for it.

If you find yourself depressed all the time, check your team. If you’re always second guessing your God given capabilities because you have someone constantly telling you “why it’s not going to work out”, then check your team. If you have someone always reminding you of the no good person you used to be while you’re changing for the better now, check your team. If you have someone that’s always waiting, watching and gloating when they see someone else fail, don’t think you’re so special, they’ll probably do the same to you; check your team.

#TakeMyFoolishAdvice life is a gift from God and as long as sin exist it’s going to be tough whither you’re in this world by yourself or with a thousand people. You already have one devil to fight on a daily basis why comprise your team with more.

Surround yourself with positivity, people who love you and praise. I have been jamming to Marvin Sapp’s “Praise Him in Advance” all week. If you are trying to make some healthy and positive changes in your life then keep pushing, I’m on your team!

 

Beloved,

AWalk

A Huge Thank You!

If you were to ask me in November 2011 what the reach of takemyfoolishadvice.com would be in June 2012 I probably would have said my local area. The day I started this site, I prayed that it would reach at least one person and simply inspire or motivate them. So the problem with that answer is simply, I put a limit on what God can and will do for me. You all have inspired me.

I am so overjoyed and humble to share with you all that takemyfoolishadvice.com now has readers in over 74 countries; with top international readership in the United Kingdom, India and Canada. Welcome to the family Bangladesh, Serbia, Sri Lanka, Armenia and the Republic of Korea. In addition, since creating this site I have made a guest appearance of the Anderson Cooper Show sharing myfoolishadvice and started a book series. This is all a stretch of the imagination for me. I never would have dreamed any of this but I am grateful it is all happening. I look forward to the future.

Thank you all for helping my words, thoughts and dreams go international! You all have been a blessing to me.

#takemyfoolishadvice only follow your dreams if you’re going to trust in God.

P.S I can’t wait to visit some of these countries.

Beloved,
AWalk

I called the Wedding OFF! Pt. 1

Hello Everyone,

It’s been 6 weeks since I last posted on TakeMyFoolishAdvice and I just wanted to apologize for being away for so long. I really missed all of you greatly and thought of you guys constantly, maybe even obsessedly (I know it’s not a word) while I was away. Your comments on a few topics have been keeping me entertained and excited to get back to you. So, here’s what’s been keeping me away from you guys… I called the wedding off! I’m not sure where exactly to start so I’ll just start from the beginning.

South coast of Barbados, West Indies.

South coast of Barbados, West Indies.

We arrived in Barbados at Grantley Adams International Airport at 1:20pm. The first thing I noticed was the clear topaz colored water; it reminded me of the beaches of Miami and the tropical oasis, Jamaica. I felt at peace even though my heart was racing with excitement and adventure. I remember smelling the ocean as I stepped out of the airport and put on my favorite pair of leopard print sunglasses. Just then I heard the chauffeur  beckon unto me, “Ms. Walker your car awaits you.”  I sat in an amazing cream and cognac colored stretched Cadillac Escalade fully equipped with chilled coconut water, coconut flavored Italian ices, coconut Rum and thought to myself, “My wedding weekend has finally arrived”. My mother, sisters and closest girlfriends jumped into the SUV with me and we were headed to my wedding resort destination. With my eyes fixated on all of the beautiful women surrounding me I couldn’t stop imaging them in their gowns. Dark chocolate, cool browns, gentle mocha, and stunning almond skin tones will soon be dripping in vibrant Spring violets, fierce and fantastic fuchsias, creamy soft browns with hints of lilac. Romantically my mind drifted to Maximus, my fiancé, my love, my protector, my partner in everything Amy, my motivator, sounding board and friend for almost five years.

Maximus stands at 5’11, a solid 195 lbs. with smooth velvety brown skin that accentuates that muscular physic I love. He has a warm and welcoming smile, piercing eyes that holds your attention secretly with or without your permission. And that voice, that voice is more like an experience. A soothing baritone vibrato that makes you feel light, worry free with a first class escape ticket to never never land, but still powerful enough to hold you captive to his every word. His name literally means “the greatest”. He is… or was… no still is, a fantastic man. Never did I think in a million years a man like Maximus would be interested in me; a plain Jane single mom. I didn’t think I was tall enough, smart enough, pretty enough, light-skinned enough, rich enough, just plain “ENOUGH” for a man so brilliant and amazingly handsome.

Maximus, my soon to be father-in-law, the groomsmen, and our sons… or rather my son, (still not sure how to say that) were to arrive in Barbados the next evening.  When we first met, we were in church. Yeah I know this is what every girl dreams of; a smart and handsome man that loves the Lord. Well I was sitting in the pew with my son and the pastor was preaching a sermon on love. “Unconditional and God approved love,” I remember the pastor loudly exclaiming. It was a moving and groundbreaking sermon that changed my ideology on love immediately. It was like I knew and believed that I was deserving of love. My eyes were now opened and they connected with Maximus eyes, which seemed familiar and safe to me.    

Although we had never met before something came over me the moment I saw him. Instinctively I followed his every lead. As service was ending, and church members began to leave, he changed seats in the pew to be closer to me. I followed suit and did the same. Eventually we were sitting right next to each other, eyes fixated on each other as if we had met and loved each other long before that very day. My breathing was steady but shallow. While we both were looking forward we simultaneously and slowly moved our hands closer and closer together. Something attracted us to each other and it was hella strong. I had never been so brave and spontaneous before in my life. The world felt as if it were moving fast and we were suspended in time. Once our hands found each other, I swallowed hard. This all felt so surreal but so right. I was confused and excited which didn’t make sense because I was in church. Where was all of this coming from? I asked myself. I looked down and I was holding hands with a stranger. It felt intimate, it was intimate.

“Hello, my name is Maximus” he said as he softly caressed my hand. I swallowed hard again. “My name is Amy.” His voice made my spine tingle and I’m not ticklish. “Have you seen me here before?”  He asked. I stuttered, “No, I’m not all that good with faces but I’m sure I would have remembered yours if I had.” I could tell that he was smiling while he caressed my hand gently and respectfully, but I could not bring myself to turn to look at him. If I did I would have to admit to myself that I was flirting with the closest version of Morris Chestnut I would find in real life and fallen apart. I didn’t even know what this was all about. The only thing I knew was the church sanctuary had completely emptied. It was just the two of us sitting in the pew with my son fast asleep on my lap and a chubby round little boy who kept calling him, “Sir Sir”.

Eyes fixed forward. Hands embraced in one another’s he revealed, “I have seen you every week for the past eight months. You’re a great mother and you give your son and everyone around you great love. I have also seen that you have no one to love you.”

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This is just an installment from my first short story entitled, “I called the Wedding OFF!” I’m excited to hear your feedback. Stay tuned to part 2.  

Beloved,

AWalk

Jesus Resurrection = Promise

Easter doesn’t mean bunny rabbits and egg hunts to me anymore. Instead it’s a reminder that Jesus died for me, little ole me, and me personally. I have come to love Jesus’s death and resurrection more and more because of the promise Jesus wrote to me in a love letter. “In my Father’s house are many mansions: if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for. If I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and receive you to Myself, that where I am, there you may be also.” John 14:2-3

I hold that promise dear to my heart and it gives me hope and joy and love and peace knowing God wants me to be with Him, in Heaven; and not just me but those that I love as well.

#takemyfoolishadvice read God’s love letters to you some time, you just might come across a promise that He wrote to YOU.  

Beloved,

AWalk

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