I had plans of staying home this weekend but decided at the last minute to attend a Christmas banquet. Here’s a few shots. Enjoy!
Beloved,
AWalk
Category Archives: Girlfriend Chat
How can single moms have fun
This topic was requested after I posted my month long 30th birthday celebration so I wanted to touch on it a bit. Most of my readers know that I am a single parent to an awesome young boy and have been for 8 years.
He’s sooo handsome. I did good, I did good. LOL
In these past 8 years my social life has had peaks and valleys. I’ve shared a few dating mishaps and hang up here and here. I have concluded that whether single, married or widowed the climate of your social groups run in a cycle of hot to cold and the definition of “fun” continuously change. There are a lot of factors that come into play in this topic but for now I will discuss having fun two ways: Fun with your children and fun without. Read the rest of this entry
Alex Cross: My Roger Ebert review
This weekend I got cabin fever and I desperately wanted out of my weekend routine of cooking and cleaning. A movie with the family and a dine-in experience at our local pizzeria was exactly what the doctor ordered. It was a gorgeous day so I grabbed my sister, mom and kids and we were on our way! Once we got to the theatre it was a tossup between “Alex Cross”, starring Tyler Perry or “Taken 2” with Liam Neeson. Before purchasing our tickets we watched the trailers and read the reviews online. Although Alex Cross received poor ratings we still opted to experience the magic ourselves.
Do you want to know what I thought of it?
I gave it a 5/10 stars. Here are some of the high notes: It was great to see Tyler Perry take on a masculine and suspenseful role, certainly a 360 from his typical role as the pistol whipping grandmother, Madea. And…… well that’s pretty much the only positive thing that I have to say.
So here are the low points of the film (I will try not to give away the whole movie). The story line was veryyyyyy predictable and detracted from all efforts to build suspense. Thus, the climax was virtually non-existent. Every move that Cross made was highly anticipated and that produced high theatric performance expectation; sadly Perry didn’t deliver. His portray of Alex Cross had no depth, he displayed one single emotion throughout the whole film and his attempts to elevate his character from off the page appeared forced and unbelievable. The roles of the supporting cast lacked fluidity and chemistry. It would appear that they were all just placed as individual actors staring in the own separate movie. Lastly, the story line progressed slowly, really slowly. This is crazy for an drama/action film. I certainly was not hanging on by the edge of my seat.
For those of you who are unaware, the character Alex Cross, stems from a novel and a long list of movies. Including “Kiss the Girl” and “Along Came a Spider”. Both of those films feature Morgan Freemen as Alex Cross. Tyler Perry was no Morgan Freemen or anything close to that caliber. I understand Perry was trying to make character his own but his rendition of who Alex Cross is was completely off base and out of touch. If you haven’t seen “Kiss the Girl” and “Along Came a Spider”, check them out on Netflix before you see Alex Cross. THERE’S A BIG DIFFERENCE.
The kids watch “Here Comes the Boom” with Kevin James and they loved it. The only complaint my son raised was the degree and amount of violence. I had no idea it would have so much fighting it in from the preview.
#takemyfoolishadvice get out of the house and do something!
Beloved,
AWalk
How to turn the noise off in your head
Text messages that read “call me now”. No reply in 2.5 seconds so you call my cell phone, no answer. You ring my house phone and leave a message on the answering machine. My work cell phone is right beside me and I am sure it will buzz any second now. No success, you send an email. Watch and wait for me to login to my facebook account and IM me. You send messages through other family member and friends in an effort to try to reach me. When all else fails you show up at my house. I know and accept freely what I am to you. I am your sounding board, moral compass, spiritual advisor, confidante, go to person, source for inspiration, positivity and creativity, your teacher, a listening ear, your personal cheerleader and I appreciate it all, all of these hats you have adorned me with. But I hear your voice even when you are not speaking to me and that is the problem. Sometimes I just want to turn off all the noise in my head and in order to do that I have to mute you! Read the rest of this entry
THIS is Why We FAIL at Lifestyle Changes!! Whoissugar
Hey TMFA family!
Every now and then I come across a great video on Youtube that relates to the information I like to share with you all. Below is Whoissugar’s video discussing some reasons why our goals do not come to furition.
She is a promoter of positive energy and a clinician by profession. I definitely agree, and will echo, that speaking positivity to yourself regularly, surrounding yourself with personal cheerleaders and maximizing your efforts by planning in advance will only lead to YOUR success.
Check it out a share your thoughts in the comment section!
Beloved,
AWalk
Eve didn’t approach Adam 1st. So why would I ask you for your number?
Adam asked God to give him a companion and a woman was God’s response. Notice that the man had to make the request. It was the man that made the first move. So explain to me why men expect for woman to approach them when they’re interested. Explain to me how two people can have intense eye contact with each other across the room but the man never makes a move. Before you say that he probably wasn’t that in to her, let’s just pretend for a moment that he was. And while you’re at it, explain to me why the 2012 man likes it when a woman approaches him for his number.
Eve wasn’t the aggressor then and I’m sure not going to be it now. I think it paints a woman as desperate and without tact. I know I’m old fashion but I refuse to believe that the good ole days of a man approaching a woman, are over.
Am I out of touch with what’s going on in 2012? Let me know below.
Warm regards,
AWalk
Should single Christians have sexual/romantic fantasies?
So every week I host a “Let’s Talk with AWalk” a young adult meet-up in my town. It’s basically about 15 of us, between the ages of 21 – 35, that come together to socialize over a bite to eat and talk about various topics. When we got on the topic of dating and relationships, things got really interesting. One of the questions that went unanswered, because it was getting late was, “Is it okay for single Christians to have sexual/romantic fantasies in lieu of having sex? Or is having fantasies just as bad?” Inquiring minds wanted to know! LOL
If you’re a single Christian virgin or single practicing celibacy, things can get a little steamy. It appears sometimes that masturbation and fantasying are the only two options to really satisfy that “itch”. Now I have heard both sides of this argument. Some say fantasying is still fornication and it’s a sin. While others argue that it is better to fantasize than engage in sexual intercourse.
#takemyfoolishadvice the heart is willing but the flesh is weak. I personally believe that the act of sin first takes place in your mind.
So what do you guys think? Do you think Christian men and women should be fantasizing? I’m curious to know what you do if you’re single. Do share in the comment section below.
Beloved,
Awalk
Single and working for Christ
Most churches have a singles ministry but I will be honest, I have never joined. Over the years my interest has varied but never enough to take the plunge and venture inside a meeting. While what I am about to say next is far from the truth a part of me feels that Single Ministries have a stench of “desperation” attached to them. I know there main objective is not to play match maker but I don’t necessary feel comfortable with the labels and thoughts associates with it. Again, I will admit I’m an outsider looking in.
All these dating sites directed toward Christian singles only serves as added pressure to find your “soul mate”. The devil will sometimes use my feelings of loneliness and sadness, to make these mediums look more and more appealing. I’m not surprised when he dangles what appears to be something good in front of me just to separate me from the love of Christ.
While the lows and lengths of these lonely spells are few and far between they still occur. I find solace in reading, writing, mediating, find new adventures (small ones) to explore and/or adding projects to things I’m working on. The important part about doing these things is it allows feel good about myself and good about the people I’m serving. I feel more fulfilled when I am making good quality use of my time and God given talents. Those close to me will say that I work 24.5 hours a day just to stay busy enough. That is partially true and that is okay because I’ve never known someone to get in trouble by being busy at work and focused on Christ.
I do think that during my single life I’m able to work for Christ in a way married couples can’t. And being single is definitely a time to build, tear down and build again a relationship with Christ that will survive life; literally and figuratively. I enjoy the work that I do in my Lords name; it brings me true joy, happiness and peace. I do it because I love it and I want Christ to be proud of the work I’ve been able to do, for His kingdom, with the gifts he’s given me. If I am to be married I want my husband to find me working in the church, for my family and community. I’m not sure yet why it’s so important to me but I’m content with knowing that it is for now. We can talk about this some more if you like. Feel free to also ask me questions on how to combat the lonely.
#takemyfoolishadvice being a Christian single is not a death sentence. The best is always what God has in store for you.
Beloved,
AWalk
Changes| There is something brewing!
Every now and then I move into a season of change. I want to change everything about me; the way I look, what I eat, where I go, what I do for pleasure/leisure, my hair, my philosophy on a few things, everything. Well that season has come around again and my mind is swelling and swirling with new ideas and new adventures that I want to experience.
In the past when I’ve felt this way I’ve went bald, moved across a whole state, rode on the back of a strangers motorcycle, took a 2 week vacation to sin city alone, became a vegetarian, bought a dog and changed my wardrobe from “rocker fab” to “power to the people” to “sophisticated chic” all within a short time frame.
My changes has been, and is, a time of conscious reckless abandonment and leaving my inhibitions at the door. I’m most creative, driven and ambitious during these times. I’m looking forward to taking you guys along for the ride. I might even throw in some pics… nah, that’s evidence. LOL
#takemyfoolishadvice a chance for change takes place every moment of the day. Go for it like the world is watching.
Beloved,
AWalk
Changes| What to Do Professionally? Pt.1
So ever since I could remember I always asked myself, “What are you going to do with your life?” Every year I would compose a goal sheet a map to success. My first one, that I actually still have, goes back to 1993. I was starting a new school and I just felt like… Okay this is the big leagues you have to have a solid plan to your ultimate goal. Poor thing, my ultimate plan kept changing. Most adults were often impressed with my forethought at such an early age. What they failed to understand was I wasn’t asking myself these questions and desperately seeking the answers out of maturity. It was more out of fear and the desire to save myself from failure and disappointment.
I was and slightly still am the type of person that ALWAYS wanted to know what was going to happen every step of the way. What is going to happen if I earn a degree in business as opposed to applied health? What will happen if I move to New York as opposed to Georgia, will there be better employment opportunities? What will happen if I decide to get married, will it last more than 5 years? Would I be happier single? What am I going to be like when I’m 60 years old, will I be happy with the chooses I’ve made? ALL THESE QUESTIONS AND NO DEFINITIVE ANSWERS. You know why there’s no definite answers, because I am not God and faith is built knowing that He has all of this figured out for us. Amen.
So fast forward 15-20 years…
I started college Read the rest of this entry
